The Power of Mirroring: Why Nothing is Truly Personal
Ever had someone say or do something that felt like a direct attack on your character? Maybe a friend was short with you, they stopped talking to you, or a stranger gave you an unkind look, and you spent the rest of the day feeling hurt, wondering what you did wrong. But here’s a truth that might change everything: rarely is anything truly personal. More often than not, what others say or do is simply a reflection of their own inner world—their fears, their insecurities, their experiences.
This is the essence of mirroring. At its core, mirroring is the idea that we are all reflections of each other. We project our own internal beliefs, feelings, and judgments onto those around us, and they do the same with us. When we embrace this concept, we can start to see that other people’s actions are rarely about us—they’re more about the lens through which they view the world. And in turn, how we interpret others is often more about us than about them.
We Are All One: Seeing Ourselves in Each Other
The concept of "oneness" is central to many spiritual teachings, and it’s based on the idea that we are all interconnected. Underneath the surface, beyond our individual personalities and experiences, there is a shared essence, a universal consciousness that binds us all. Imagine that every person you encounter is, on some level, a part of you. Their struggles, their fears, their dreams—all of it is interconnected with your own.
When you start to see the world this way, it becomes easier to understand that people act and react from their own perspectives, shaped by their unique experiences and inner struggles. If someone lashes out, it may be because they’re dealing with their own pain, not because you did something wrong. Similarly, when you find yourself judging someone, it can be a reflection of something unresolved within you. In this way, every interaction becomes an opportunity for self-reflection and growth. It’s work! but it gets easier and easier with practice.
Why You Shouldn't Take Things Personally
Taking things personally is often the result of seeing ourselves as separate from others. When we believe in separation, we’re more likely to view others' actions as an attack on our identity. But when we understand that everyone is projecting their inner world onto the outside, we can start to let go of that need to take offense. This shift in perspective helps us move from a place of reaction to one of compassion. If someone is being a total B, checkin with yourself. Are you acting with love? If you weren't a total B than don’t take it personal.
When you take things personally, you hand over your emotional power to others, letting their actions dictate your feelings. But when you recognize that others are just reflecting their own inner world, you take your power back. You realize that no one has the authority to define your worth or dictate your peace.
